Grace Tame started the year with an important accolade as Australian of the Year and now ends it with a less prestigious one – this site’s 13th annual media person of the year. I started the award in 2009 with an Australian focus when I gave the first one to the then ABC boss Mark Scott for taking up the fight to Murdoch. Though it went to an Australian a year later for Julian Assange’s Wikileaks exploits (and though he has spent much of the last decade in detention he was a good candidate for a second award this year), Assange’s global focus encouraged me to look beyond our shores for recipients. Looking back on the 13 winners, they were mostly people I respected (Trump the obvious exception) but the common denominator was they used their voice to great effect. Last year I gave it to World Health Organisation boss Tedros Adhanom Ghebreyesus for dealing with the unimaginable global challenge of COVID and his unheeded warning of the need for equity in vaccine distribution. COVID remains the dominant theme of 2021 though no one individual stands out in response.
Looking elsewhere it was another watershed year in the fight for genuine equality between the sexes. The UN says gender equality is a fundamental human right and a necessary foundation for a peaceful, prosperous and sustainable world. But despite many advances in recent decades, the UN says discriminatory laws and social norms remain pervasive, women continue to be underrepresented at all levels of political leadership, and one in five women and girls between 15 and 49 experience physical or sexual violence by an intimate partner within a 12-month period.
Grace Tame is one of those women. She is an Australian activist and advocate for survivors of sexual assault. She is a yoga teacher, visual artist, and champion long-distance runner, having won the 2020 Ross Marathon in a female course record time of just under three hours. She turns 27 in late December though the highlight of her 2021 was back in January when she was named Australian of the Year. That award is conferred by the National Australia Day Council a not-for-profit Australian Government–owned social enterprise. The award given since 1960 has evolved over the years though scientists and sports stars have always done well (three Australian cricket captains feature). There has been an increasing number of female and Indigenous winners and two of them, Adam Goodes (2014) and Rosie Batty (2015) have used the award to campaign hard on issues of importance, risking great unpopularity for speaking out.
When Tame was named Australian of the Year, Batty wrote her an open letter, warning of the pressures and demands ahead and pleading with the National Australia Day Council to better support recipients. “If there was one thing I would ask NADC to consider,” Batty wrote, “it is to prepare the honourees more thoroughly. Give an indication of the avalanche about to hit.” That avalanche certainly hit but Tame was ready for it, living up not to her surname but to her first name, the epitome of grace under fire. In 2021 Tame took her activism to the next level, directly attacking the government and its leaders, inviting political displeasure in a year when the ruling Coalition has been beset by “women problems” which are really “men problems”.
Tame knows a lot about men problems. Born in Hobart she was a gifted, outgoing child with a loving but disrupted childhood. Her parents separated when she was two and she spent 13 years moving between two homes. She was a dual-scholarship holder at St Michael’s Collegiate girls’ school and was diagnosed with anorexia in Year 10. She was groomed aged 15 and then repeatedly sexually abused by 58-year-old teacher Nicolaas Bester. The school knew about the predator but did nothing to stop the abuse until Tame reported her attacker. Bester was arrested and convicted of “maintaining a sexual relationship with someone under the age of 17”. In sentencing, Justice Helen Wood said Tame, who had undiagnosed autism spectrum disorder, was “particularly vulnerable given her mental state” and that her abuser “knew her psychological condition was precarious” and had “betrayed the trust of the child’s parents and the school’s trust in an utterly blatant fashion.” Tame argued the offence needed to be renamed as in other jurisdictions due to its misleading use of the word “relationship” when what was really meant was “abuse”.
Her attacker showed no remorse. After release from prison in 2015, Bester boasted about his crime on an internet forum. “The majority of men in Australia envy me,” Bester wrote. “I was 59, she was 15 going on 25 … It was awesome.” He was convicted a second time as a result, and for sharing further child exploitation material. In 2017, Bettina Arndt interviewed Bester for her YouTube channel in a segment she called “Feminists persecute disgraced teacher”. Arndt claimed there was “sexually provocative behaviour from female students” and said young women needed to “behave sensibly and not exploit their seductive power to ruin the lives of men”.
Arndt made no attempt to understand the power differential between Bester and Tame or the way he tried to ruin her life. She had not contacted Tame for the story and published her name without consent. Tame criticised Arndt for falsehoods and supporting her abuser and “trivialising” and “laughing off” his crime. “Ms Arndt never reached out to me in the pursuit of balanced journalism; never heard my side of the story; was not present at any stage of the abuse; did not attend any of the court hearings; yet confidently labelled me a ‘provocative’ teenager who used her ‘seductive powers’ to ruin a man’s life,” Tame said.
Though Bester had spoken publicly about the case many times, Tame could not as she was gagged by a Tasmanian law supposedly designed to protect victims. Since 2001 the Evidence Act prohibited publication of information identifying survivors of sexual assault. Journalist and sexual assault survivor advocate Nina Funnell worked with Tame on a campaign called #LetHerSpeak, with Marque Lawyers and End Rape on Campus Australia seeking to overturn this law and a similar law in the Northern Territory. The campaign attracted global support from Alyssa Milano, Tara Moss and John Cleese and from the MeToo movement.
Grace fought her own private battle to speak publicly in the Supreme Court of Tasmania. After two years and a $10,000 legal bill, she was given special leave in August 2019 to tell her story, the first woman in Tasmania granted the exemption. Then in October Tasmanian Attorney-General Elise Archer announced legislation would be amended to allow sexual assault survivors to publicly speak out with changes to the wording of the crime noting that “the word relationship has connotations of consent.” That law came into force in 2020.
As a result Tame became an international advocate including work with the Los Angeles Human Trafficking Squad helping people understand grooming and psychological manipulation. Her focus is on education as prevention rather than looking for cures which can “fuel the unconscious belief that child sexual abuse is just a fact of life that we have to accept in our society”. LA Human Trafficking Squad task force leader Detective Ray Bercini said Tame’s insights were invaluable. “It’s a mind manipulation, it’s a way that these guys are able to control and manipulate victims who are just looking for someone to love them or give them some direction,” he said. “They don’t want to disrespect them if they’re older, and so a lot of the process that happens in the grooming, that’s what draws that bond, and that bond becomes very, very difficult to break through. And if I can understand that, then I can have a little more patience and compassion in knowing that that’s what’s happening.”
Grace Tame was named Tasmanian of the Year in October 2020 and three months later became the first Tasmanian winner in the 61 years of the national award. The award panel cited her “extraordinary courage, using her voice to push for legal reform and raise public awareness about the impacts of sexual violence.” In her acceptance speech she spoke of her assault: “I remember him saying, ‘Don’t make a sound.’ Well, hear me now, using my voice amongst a chorus of voices that will not be silenced.” Tame said child sexual abuse and cultures that enable still existed and the lasting impacts of grooming were not widely understood. “Predators manipulate all of us — family, friends, colleagues, strangers in every class, culture and community. They thrive when we fight amongst ourselves and weaponise all of our vulnerabilities.” Her powerful speech “brought the house down” and marked Tame as an important new voice.
Prime Minister Scott Morrison introduced her that night but probably winced at the speech, with several members of his own government accused of inappropriate conduct, a Coalition staffer on trial for rape of Britanny Higgins and allegations of bullying made by former Australia Post CEO Christine Holgate. Tame later said his measly response was “Well, gee, I bet it felt good to get that out”. With plausible deniability Morrison said he’d called her Australia Day speech “very brave”: “That is exactly what I meant when I said that to her on that occasion”.
Morrison may have wanted to sweep it under the Canberra carpet but Tame was just getting started. At a March 4 Justice rally she said evil thrived in silence. “Unspoken behaviour ignored is behaviour endorsed,” she said to huge applause. She acknowledged while having a voice in these conversations was “terrifying”, women needed to know they had the power. “The fear of doing nothing should outweigh your fear of doing something.” Tame stood shoulder to shoulder with Higgins and both made the cover of Marie Claire’s “Women of the Year” issue, with the magazine recognising them for their “bravery, honesty and smarts”.
Morrison’s “well, gee” reaction suggests he had no grasp of the problem but the evidence was mounting. In April Queensland introduced a Women’s Safety and Justice Taskforce to examine coercive control and review the need for a specific offence of domestic violence. Morrison responded with his own Cabinet Taskforce on women’s security and economic security the same month, though he remained opposed to quotas for women in his own party.
Tame made enemies, criticising the appointment of Amanda Stoker as the new assistant minister for women, saying the Queensland senator had supported a “fake rape crisis tour” that inflicted great suffering on survivors. Stoker said Tame’s claims were “utter nonsense” and said different points of view should be spoken and heard even if they had the potential to offend. She probably had Arndt’s Bester story in mind. Stoker had previously supported Arndt who got an Australia Day award a year before Tame, ironically, for her contribution “to gender equity.” In the real world of gender inequity a report by sex discrimination commissioner Kate Jenkins found one in three people working in federal parliament had experienced some kind of sexual harassment. Tame said “until every recommendation has been implemented and real changes follows, sadly all this will amount to is another theatrical announcement. I’m loathe to have to criticise once again, but this is the reality.”
Tame did not back off. Speaking on Twitter after the report was released she said the Prime Minister led a coalition “whose behaviour evidences a distinctly corrupt standard’. Tame said “it rots from the top. “Parliament’s ecosystem of abuse has been revealed. 15 minutes after the 500-page Review launched today, Scott was already claiming it’s a safer workplace than when Brittany was there. This, days after he coercively orchestrated the ambush of Bridget Archer.” Archer was the female MP dragged into the PM’s office for a dressing down after crossing the floor, a fate not shared by male Senator Gerald Rennick when he did the same thing.
Just as the Murdoch press hammered Australian of Year Adam Goodes for being an “uppity black” after he spoke out about Indigenous issues, their army of conservative columnists pressed into action again against Tame. A sure sign she was hitting home came from Janet Albrechtsen who accused Grace of dividing the country. “By antagonising many Australians with her increasingly political interventions, many people will stop listening even when she has something non-partisan to say,” Albrechtsen wrote “More and more, she is surrendering her unique presence as a sexual abuse survivor to dirty partisan politics.” Albrechtsen was lamenting the fact Tame was unafraid to speak her mind. She was using that voice she promised.
A further sign Tame was on the right track came when Pauline Hanson’s New South Wales muppet Mark Latham (who has spent the last 17 years reminding Australians they dodged a bullet when he lost the 2004 election) claimed she had “disgraced” the role of Australian of the Year. Latham’s sole evidence was that Tame was a “one-person political attack machine” on the prime minister and had betrayed the traditional role of the Australian of the Year staying out of partisan political attacks and trying to unite Australians. In Latham’s view, “uniting Australians” is only a good thing if it is uncontroversial, while dirty partisan politics was best left to dirty partisan politicians like him. If my award was for drongo of the year, Latham would be a strong contender, but his words show the truth in reverse. Tame has thrown great honour and meaning on the award, and is an shining exemplar for having the courage of her convictions. After emerging from a difficult dark past, Tame is using her voice to achieve effective change on an international level and a deserving winner of my 2021 media award.
“Child sexual abuse is permanently damaging but it doesn’t have to stop you from doing anything, In fact, it can be the very thing that drives you to achieve great things.” – Grace Tame
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